Home' Wealthwise Magazine : Issue 13 Contents “The most precious
gift we can offer
others is our presence.
embraces those we
love, they will bloom
Thich Nhat Hanh
Celeste Du Toit
is a Life Coach
and NLP practi-
tioner based in
works with indi-
vidual clients and
ples, runs work-
hops and retreats, and does moti-
vational speaking engagements.
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3. Refrain From Taking Over
You do not raise people by picking
them up; you raise them by teaching
them to stand. If things do not go
according to plan, just stay detached
and allow the process to unfold.
As a coach I can offer gentle assist-
ance, butI have to step back and
refrain from taking over. That is when
you develop a space for people to
grow. A skilled coach or leader will use
techniques to steer the situation
without pushing the person.
To this end it is necessary to be mind-
ful of the moment, even if the moment
does not seem positive. There is
always magic in every moment.
Make it your responsibility to find
4. Center your mind
Respond, do not react. Develop still-
ness of the mind through meditation,
practicing gratitude, yoga,or any prac-
tice that allows you to calm your mind
(not reading, as you then still absorb
“outside” information – and, heaven
forbid – no TV!).
There is also tremendous healing
energy in reconnecting with the
ground (“grounding” or “earthing”). As
children we often walked around
barefoot; but as adults we have for-
gotten how it feels. It can be as simple
mental process that deflects from the
In closing, the spiritual guru Ram Dass
says: “Be Here Now”. That is the simple
essence of mindfulness.
a practice as walking barefoot on the
grass for a few moments, or letting
your feet touch the ground for a few
moments to absorb the earth’s healing
energy. You will be amazed at how
much it helps to “live in the moment”.
Develop your own rituals, and find out
what works for you to centre your
mind; be it a walk in nature, prayer,
solitude, or meditation. Personally, I
always take at least a few minutes’
quiet time before engaging a client, to
empty my mind. I cannot focus on
someone else if I am not centred.
5. Embrace life and have fun
Whilst you have to guard your energy
and your power to keep things new
and exciting, you also have to work on
creating that energy. Allow things to
unfold; but create a positive respon-
sive, fun environment. Mindfulness
does not mean that you need to be
Deep and Meaningful all the time, and
that you cannot be light-hearted!
Every encounter produces a result.
But you can ensure that theresult is
positive; that you do not absorb any
negative energy from a situation or
from others (which we do!).
When practicing mindfulness, do not
force things. Believe thatyoualready
are the power, and learn to internalise
that feeling of power. Notice where
you are sourcing your power fromand
where you are giving it away; and
manage your environment accord-
ingly. People pick up on your cue. Be
someone who radiates warmth,
friendliness, and compassion; and
with a ZEST for life.
6. Do not attach to a specific
Herein, in my opinion lies the biggest
challenge for most of us. Our whole
life is centred on achieving results.
However, a true connection with the
present is necessary when it is about
more than getting the task done.
We also learn more when we expect
to be interested. When you have a
preconceived idea about the outcome,
or about what someone has to say,
you unconsciously block the free
energy flow. When you dismiss an
idea without full awareness, you risk
losing out on ideas that would have
helped you move forward.
Focus on the target, but be mindful of
what else arises. That is when we
create Magic in the Moment, and
when joy comes from within. Do not
judge or label things. Yes, we of course
need words to describe our experi-
ences. I am not saying that we should
be overcautious to use vocabulary in
the broader sense; but remember that
there is your truth, the other person’s
truth and any and everybody else’s
truth. A child, playing mindfully does
not dismiss. Dismissing or judging is a
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